Known for her candid opinions on Loose Women, she is now recognized as Britain’s most straightforward advice columnist, offering guidance on various life issues including relationships and intimacy.
Dear Coleen
A man in his forties, married with children, shares his struggle with his elderly mother’s dementia. Over the past few years, her demeanor has shifted dramatically from gentle to hostile and verbally aggressive.
The man’s children have become fearful of their grandmother during visits to her care facility, prompting him to cease bringing them along. While his wife offers unwavering support, he hesitates to burden her further as she juggles other responsibilities.
Feeling isolated and despondent, he grapples with conflicting emotions about maintaining distance from his mother for his own well-being. Seeking guidance on this complex situation, he reaches out for advice.
Coleen’s Response
Acknowledging the man’s emotional turmoil, Coleen reassures him that his feelings are valid and common. Drawing from her own experience with a parent suffering from Alzheimer’s, she empathizes with the anguish he faces.
Encouraging him not to harbor guilt or self-blame, she recommends reaching out to the Alzheimer’s Society for support and understanding. By connecting with others in similar circumstances, he can find solace and shared experiences in navigating this challenging journey.
Coleen emphasizes the importance of self-care and seeking respite to alleviate the strain. While grappling with conflicting emotions, he is reminded that prioritizing his well-being does not equate to neglecting his mother’s welfare, as she would wish for his peace of mind.
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